Grieve in your own way and at your own pace.

Losing someone you love is a hard thing to deal with whether expected or unexpected. There is no protocol on how one should grieve. Never let anyone make you feel bad during your grieving process. Everyone is different and handles things in their own way. Who are we to be disrespectful toward another because we feel that they should handle their loss in a manner different then we would or have? It is ok to cry be it a day, month, year, or decade from now, no one knows exactly how you feel inside in dealing with your loss. They may have an idea or can even relate to your pain but you still are not the same individuals and have different ways of dealing with different circumstances. Some will try to make others feel ashamed to want to keep the memory of their loved one alive. Let it go they may say, who gives them the right to put a timeline on your healing? To remember the good times brings laughter and joy to the spirit. True, some can't deal with talking about and seeing their loved ones in pictures too much because it brings back the hurt and pain of them once being viable, others feel just the opposite, talking about the loved one they are missing and having pictures around make them continue to feel close to them hence the phrase out of sight out of mind. Others start scholarship funds and create memorials and charities in memory of their loved ones to keep their name out there as well as the memories of who they were and what their lives entailed. No matter how you personally choose to grieve, do it, pay not attention to those who frown upon how you a coping with and trying to move forward with your life after your heart has experienced loss. You do what you need to do and be not ashamed of your choice to do so. This is a part of your healing process. Don't be embarrassed to cry and let those emotions free. Prayer changes things. Talk to God about what you are feeling and ask him to give you peace because truthfully speaking He is the only one who can give you real peace in your spirit during a time such as this. Don't try to do it apart from him because it will only be temporary. Be patient with yourself during your healing process and be at peace, your are doing nothing wrong.

God Bless,
Sherri